HEAL THE RELATIONSHIP WITH OUR PARENTS

And deep down, we are all loved. As a child, we are born to love and be loved. As a daughter, we love and are always loved by our parents.

The first step to heal your relationship with the most important people on Earth - your parents.

She is cool. She is smart. She is indeed a tough case for me because she is seemingly so fine by all means. Have you ever looked at someone and then wondered, how the heck their life is going so o~kay, there is nothing they need to "work on" or "fix". It seems.

However, being okay is like a sort of blanket, which is warm and safe and at the same time covers lots of things underneath. Being okay is pretty tricky. Therefore, be mindful ;) We have worked for several sessions, and nothing was moving forward. She even told me once, my work and my questions were not related at all. And it sucked, I admitted. But we kept doing this work and anyhow, still sticking to each other. In that afternoon, at the end of our session, she asked me a couple of questions about my experiences living in aboard. She was planning to do the same, but she thought she might regret it someday as she cares and loves her parents so much. Living afar from our loved ones is never an easy choice.

She was out of a sudden, burst into tears. She always wants to heal the relationship with her father. I still remember it vividly, seeing one of the strongest clients I have, was this vulnerable. And for a while moment, I let her be.

It is healing.

It is beautiful.

Then she walked through her most painful past experiences when she was 18. Because of her not good performance on an important exam, she said that she had disappointed her father, and surely, herself included. It was another day, she made a small mistake, and her dad was not in a good mood. He bad-mouthed her with very hurtful words. It was so painful that she seemed never to forget. Her tears were continually running through her cheeks and down to her chin.

She sobbed.

We were all a child and even still are. We also have lots of inner-children inside us.

She.

Her father.

Me and You.

And deep down, we are all loved. As a child, we are born to love and be loved. As a daughter, we love and are always loved by our parents. So does she. My client does not want to regret anything or wait any longer to start healing this precious relationship. Her openness and willingness will lead her in the right direction for sure.

I bless her journey.

How about your story, and are you carrying a big chunk of Guilt in the middle of your chest?

Does it feel heavy and burden your shoulder? You are not alone, my darling.